So you’re back in reality – the wedding went off in style, and the honeymoon was perfect. Now you’ve got to get back into the swing of things, and one important thing to do is thank everyone who made your wedding day so special.
But how do you do it? Even with the option of a personalized card, what would you write in it? That’s where we come in. This guide will walk you though who you should be thanking, and give you some advice on what to include in your thank you card.
The reasons to send thanks
Sending a thank you card to your stand-out wedding guests is a great way to let people know how grateful you are that they attended or contributed to the wedding. Be it the bridesmaids and groomsmen, or simply those that gave you gifts – everyone deserves to know just how happy they made you feel.
Instead of merely sending a catch-all “thanks for coming” card (which might come across as insincere), why not send a personalized card tailored to each person talking about exactly how they contributed to your day. Focus on what they did and how it made the day special – include a photo of your father in law’s dodgy dancing, after a few too many glasses of champagne – they’ll appreciate it.
Bridesmaids and groomsmen
They are some of your best friends and closest family members. People you see regularly, and will continue to see for many years to come. That you spend so much time with them is exactly why a thank you card is so important. It shows you’re willing to put that extra bit of effort into your friendship, when you could easily have said it in passing.
Send them a card with a picture of you all together, from when you were getting ready before the ceremony, or from the party afterwards. Send the best man a photo of them handing over the rings, or making their speech. Your bridesmaids and groomsmen probably contributed the most out of the entire wedding party, so you’ll have plenty of pictures to choose from.
The people that traveled from afar
Maybe it was your childhood best friend, or your cousin twice removed on your mom’s side. Whoever they are, they came from far away just so they could be with you on one of the most important days of your life. Your thank you card should focus on the incredible commitment they made, traveling as far as they did.
Let them know that you appreciate the sacrifices that may have had to make, and the additional cost they would have incurred. You could send a picture of them reconnecting with another family member they haven’t seen in years, or the two of you laughing at all the inside jokes you haven’t heard in a while. If you got married abroad, it’s a great idea to thank anyone who was able to join you for their commitment.
They got people laughing and crying with their entertaining and heartfelt speeches. They made everyone feel a part of the day. When thanking your speechmakers, make sure you reference specific parts of their speech. A funny inside joke that only got a few laughs, but made you tear up, or that embarrassing story about your significant other that made you feel more in love with them than ever.
Whatever it was, let the speakers know you were listening, and how much of an impact their speeches had on you. Include a picture of them giving a speech on the card with your reaction in the background. They made your day and they deserve to know it.
The person who married you
Be it a vicar, or a close friend or family member, the person that conducted the ceremony deserves a special thank you. They made the ceremony a breeze and let’s not forget, they made your marriage possible. The day couldn’t have happened without them, so it’s important to say thank you.
Send them a personalized card with a picture of them during the ceremony or of the three of you together to remind them of the part they played. Tell them how much you appreciate what they did for you, and how you’ll never forget it. You could even include some pictures of the reception to show the enjoyment everyone had thanks to them.
Giving a gift at a wedding is customary, but you shouldn’t expect it. Whoever gave you a gift deserves a sincere thank you since they didn’t have to get you anything. Clearly they thought you deserved it, so let them know how happy the gift made you feel.
Be sure to reference the specific gift they gave and how you are using it. Or, if they gave money, what you have spent it on. Include a picture of the gift in its new home, or of it being used, and they’ll know they got you the right thing.
The flower girls / page boys
They had everyone saying “awwwww” as they made their way down the aisle. They were either your children, younger relatives, or your friends’ children, these little helpers really made the day special. Whatever small jobs you gave them, they helped the day run a little bit more smoothly.
Thank them with a card, letting them know how much easier the day went with their help. If they’re a bit too young to appreciate a card, send them a gift instead, like a box of chocolates, or some Gourmet Popcorn to let them know what a great job they did.
Your husband / wife
None of it was possible without your significant other. Marrying you should be enough of a gift to them, but if you want to let them know just how much they mean to you, a personalized card will do exactly that.
Include a picture of you staring lovingly at them while they deliver their speech, or the two of you during your first dance – you’ll be so swept up in the moment that you’ll forget most of the day, so having a card to remember the important bits is the perfect gift. In your message, talk about the future, all the plans you have laid out before you, and how your wedding was just the first step in a long life together.
Thank the married couple for the invite
Of course it’s not just the wedding couple that needs to send thank you cards. The wedding attendants could also send a card to the happy couple, thanking them for being invited to be with them on their special day. It’s a nice touch and shows how grateful you were to be included (and for all the delicious food and drink).
Send post-wedding thank you cards with TouchNote
Regardless of why, or who the recipient of the post-wedding thank you is, a personalized card is always your best bet. It lets you include pictures of the day itself, and specific photos of who you are thanking. It allows you to say exactly what you want to say, and explain why those people made a difference. Send your wedding guests one of TouchNote’s personalized cards, and tell them just how thankful you are.